They say that there is a spark inside each of us, and all it needs is to be ignited.
Once it is given the fuel, it becomes unquenchable.
It consumes all that is fed to it, and comes out stronger.
However, a flame which is still growing is easy to put out. A few drops of water can overwhelm it. The slightest breeze can defeat it.
What is the fuel of the fire in us? What is the evil which can extinguish it? I shall in this article try to put forth my views on the matter. I am no expert. All the views presented are my own, you are free to disagree.
A) The Three Fuels:
1) Belief: Belief, in my opinion is one of the strongest forces of the universe. A strong belief can make a person do the impossible.
Claude Bristol in his best selling book “The Magic of Believing” says:
“Leaders everywhere are looking for people who have the kinds of beliefs they will fight for, because the people charged with the vibrations of strong beliefs sometimes do the miraculous, things others often say are unbelievable. That kind of belief has the magic touch.”
Philosphers all over the world have agreed that the power of belief is unfathomable. Take any famous character from history, whether good or bad. You will find that he was possessed of a belief so strong, that he was willing to do anything for it.
A famous biblical phrase: “For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” sums it up pretty well.
When a bird jumps off a ledge, it has no fear. Because it believes in its ability to fly. That belief did not exist since the start, it was gained over the years. Similarly, we humans can create a belief, and witness the magic.
So how to create a belief?
The simplest way is to use continuous affirmations.
A famous example is of the banners and posters used by political parties during elections. Wherever people go, they see the same slogans being repeated, and it ultimately gets ingrained in their subconsciousness. They start to ‘believe’ whatever the posters told them.
Propoganda used by various world powers during the world wars is quite similar. People saw everywhere whatever the nation wanted them to see. It settled in their brain, and they did what they were told.
So choose something you want to believe, and write it down on a paper. Put it somewhere you will see it every day. Recite it everynight before sleeping, and you shall see it manifest.
You can create your personal mantra. Choose something like “I am strong” or “I am unstoppable”.
Whenever you feel weak, recite it over and over, and your belief will do wonders.
Try it. It works!
You must be willing to make it happen, in order for it to happen. You can’t succeed if you’re working due to pressure from others. The will must come from within.
The Brihadaranyaka Upanishad says:
“You are what your deep, driving desire is. As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.”
Where do you bring the will from? You must have a solid reason for what you’re doing. Everytime you think of giving up, think of all the loss it will bring.
Will power is all about delaying pleasure. Instead of having the comfort of sleeping till late, think of the ultimate benefits if you wake up early.
Will Power is a muscle, exert it and it will grow stronger. It might feel tired after some time, but will strengthen with time.
Unless you have that will, that desire, the fire can’t burn.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, but each day counts. I see people who will put in extreme effort, and expect immediate results. That’s not how it works. You have to sweat day and night to achieve success.
You need to be consistent. Remember the tale of the hare and turtle?
Students increase study time a few days before exams, and say they have worked hard. When you did nothing for 50 weeks, can just 2 save you?
B)What is Water for our inner flame?
If there is fuel for the flicker within, there must be the opposite. Below are the three forces which I believe can destroy any human.
- Extreme attachment.
Extreme attachment or Lust is one of the greatest factors which binds us. It blinds and forces us to accept immediate pleasure as the true goal.
As Shri Krishna says in the Bhagvad Gita:
“Lust, anger and greed are the three ways to hell”.
You might be on the path to better health. Lust will force you to abandon the path and continue with the habits you were trying to leave.
So how to combat Lust?
The answer to it, is Will.
Strengthen your will, and victory shall be yours.
2. Self Victimisation:
This attitude is growing among the masses. The attitude which asks “Why me?!”
The answer to the “Why Me” is hidden in the question itself.
I talked above about the power of repetition of phrases. When you keep saying “I have it the worst!” Or “No one understands me!”, you are creating a belief. That belief will surely manifest.
And the harsh fact is, no one has it easy. But there are the complainers and there are the performers. Which one are you?
I observe people acting negative because it gets them Sympathy.
As Dale Carnegie explains in “How to Make friends and Influence people”, every person is driven by the desire to be important.
Where do you get your importance from? Some get it from being praised, and others from Sympathy.
3. Blaming Circumstances:
Stop blaming your circumstances. Stop saying something happened because of how things were.
Circumstances don’t change your actions, they affect how they are carried out.
We are adaptive beings. It gets hot, we turn on the fan. It gets cold, we put on some warm clothes. Then why don’t we do the same in every field?
Why do we say: “I got bad marks because the syllabus was too vast”?
If it was, it should only make sense that we should prepare accordingly!
When you say “That person betrayed me, its not my fault!” You must realise that he wouldn’t have done so if you hadn’t trusted the person in the first place!
You are always responsible for your actions. Accept it. Be responsible. Situations hinder results if we act rigid. Change is the law of the universe. You need to change to suit the everchanging world.
Note: This was the first article of this type that I wrote. How did you find it? Should I write more? Let me know in the comments.